What a perfect start to my new business venture, the derision of a laconic teen. Anyone over 40 will probably recognise the best way to navigate a technology challenge is to ask anyone under 20. Or if it requires Coding, track down your average 8 year old.
So fresh faced and flush from populating and building a website in under an hour, I did the big reveal to the fam-damily, only to be met with; the pictures aren't centred (daughter), you need a generic look (best friend), you need to sort the blog out (good catch Tony!) and of course... it looks like wee (oldest son)!!! All very helpful consumer feedback, but was it what I wanted to hear right then? Yeah nah, nope, probably not.
But there-in lies the rub. There are times when we do things that we think are great, but others are inclined to disagree. We may be right off track, we might be on a collision course to conflict or we might just be offering something different to what is needed right then. All equally valid perspectives from the lens of "treat others the way THEY want to be treated".
That brings me to Yellow Bubble- the "wee wee" site. People need different things at different times. Our temptation is to try to "fix" to problem to validate to ourselves how good a parent/partner/friend we are. Or to minimise or dismiss the problem, because to us, it is trivial compared to our situation. Or because we are fearful of being overwhelmed by it or "captured" and entangled in someone else's emotions. (Cue sub-conscious thought.. quick run for the hills, this could get ugly...)
But what is actually needed right then by the person having a tough time? Plain and simple- hope! A good listening to, an opportunity to clear their head, some affirmation that they are ok or will be ok. And maybe a few ideas to help them on their way, so they know they have OPTIONS!
This is what this site does. It gives people the chance to seek out what they might be looking for, to read stories that might resonate with them, so they have a "me too" moment (without the news coverage). It gives access to information that might signpost a way forward in a discrete, non-intrusive way, For those navigating tough times, validation and a little direction are often all the "intervention" people need to chart a path forward. And remember, at any one time, all you ever have to do is just the next thing.
My aim is to add and grow this site to cover off as many of life's dramas as possible, not to throw fish but to teach fishing. Because everyone needs a little help sometimes. And because self-rescue is the ultimate form of self-care and self-love.
Eagerly anticipating your next blog!